Finding the Right Dentist
At ADAMS, we believe that the right fit can make a world of difference.
Finding the right dentist isn’t just about clinical skill, it’s about finding someone who understands you. For people with dental anxiety, this choice can be the turning point between avoiding care and finally feeling able to move forward.
1. Understand what you are looking for
It can be useful to have an idea of what you are looking for before starting the search.
We recommend using the Common Fears section of this website to understand that fear of the dentist is normal, and nothing to be ashamed of. Being able to then identify and communicate your fears will be invaluable when finding which dentist is the right fit for you. You may even have some ideas about what might help you specifically to feel comfortable in the dental chair.
It is then worth asking yourself what you want from your teeth. What is it that you're really looking for? It might be:
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To feel more confident when you are smiling
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To be able to chew more comfortably
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To stop having to deal with recurring pain or issues with your teeth
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A solution to once specific issue
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Confidence that you will keep your teeth for life
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Relief from the dread of not knowing if you have underlying dental issues
The more you understand what it is that you're hoping to get out of dental treatment, the easier you will be able to quickly tell whether a dentist is the right fit for you.
2. Create a shortlist of possible dentists
A helpful way to begin is by creating a shortlist of possible dentists. This can come from recommendations (friends, family, or even other health professionals) or from searching online using terms like “dentist for anxious patients” in your area. Reviews, forums, and community groups can also give insight into how a dentist treats nervous patients, not just how good their work is.
Once you have a few options, take time to explore their websites. Look beyond services and pricing to pay attention to how they speak. Do they mention dental anxiety? Do they talk about comfort, communication, or patient experience? Practices that openly acknowledge fear are often already thinking differently about care.
As you narrow things down, it can help to ask yourself: what would my “ideal” dentist feel like? Some people want someone warm and chatty; others prefer calm and minimal. Some want detailed explanations, while others feel better with less information. There’s no single “right” approach, only what feels right for you.
Ultimately, the goal isn’t to find a “perfect” dentist - it’s to find someone who is willing to meet you where you are.
3. Reach out before making a booking
Reaching out before booking can make a big difference. Many dental practices are open to emails, phone calls, or even informal chats to help you feel comfortable before committing to an appointment. Sharing that you’re nervous isn’t a weakness, it’s useful information that helps them support you better.
If it feels manageable, consider visiting the practice without committing to a formal appointment. This can be as simple as stepping inside, speaking to reception, or asking a few questions. Notice how you’re treated. Are the staff warm and respectful? Do you feel rushed, or do you feel listened to? These early interactions often reflect what the rest of the experience will be like.
4. Book a low pressure visit to meet your chosen dentist
Two key factors tend to matter most when choosing a dentist:
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How they treat you as a person
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The quality of the care and advice they provide
For anxious patients, the first is often the most important. A great dentist will take their time, avoid rushing, and adapt their approach to suit you. They’ll invite questions, respect your pace, and work with you rather than simply doing things to you.
One particularly helpful mindset is to create a “no pressure” first step. For example, booking an appointment just to talk, with no expectation of treatment. This puts you in control. If it feels right, you can continue. If it doesn’t, you can leave having lost nothing.
Ultimately, the goal isn’t to find a “perfect” dentist - it’s to find someone who is willing to meet you where you are. Because when you feel understood, respected, and in control, dental care stops being something you fear… and starts becoming something you can actually do. It’s also important to remember: you have options. Unless access is very limited, you don’t have to settle for a dentist who makes you feel uncomfortable. Finding the right fit may take a little time, but it’s worth it.